Dyslexia and Resilience: The word resilience comes from the Latin word resilere, meaning to rebound. The first known use of the word resilience was when a person wanted to refer to a type of wood that would carry sudden and severe loads without break. Well, that’s exactly what we want to encourage in our children and ourselves.
Resilient children are more likely to believe that they have the ability to handle their problems and stress. They are more likely to
persevere, stay calm, and help themselves.
Resilience may vary by temperament, but it also can be increased by education.
1. Nurture the Positive
2. Reframe the Challenges
3. Focus on the Big Picture
4. Practice Mindfulness
5. Discover the Advantages
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1. Nurture the Positive – Nurturing the positive in a child doesn’t just mean telling him positive things, although that’s important too. It means looking an interests and strengths, which may not be apparent in traditional school classrooms – especially if much time is spent on the basics of reading, writing, and math.
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi (sorry, pretty tough name to read) described the state of ‘flow’ as state of complete absorption in an activity so a person doesn’t notice much else and may lose a sense of time. For even very active children, what is it that seems to intrigue them – what makes them stay longer at doing something or watching or listening, and is there a way to give them more experiences at it? If your child doesn’t seem to have anything she seems to have a particular strength at, then think again. There’s always something, and the most common strength that parents seem to miss is a child’s interest in other children and social activities in general.
2. Reframe the Challenges – A very helpful strategy at building resilience is to reframe challenges that a child faces. It’s very common to see difficulties in an all-or-none way:
It’s too hard.
But instead of “I failed,” it’s better to say, “I think I need to learn a different way,” or “I do know how to do this, but not that. For that, I need more help.”
Negative self-talk makes a student give up, while positive self-talk makes them do something different and get help.
3. Focus on the Big Picture – It’s important to remember that most children have a small picture of their life and their challenges when they’re growing up because they haven’t lived enough of their life to know what to expect from themselves or how to see themselves succeeding. They knowledge base may be their immediate family and classmates, so that when they see themselves coming up short, they don’t have the big picture or context to see themselves in perspective.
Tell your child about the big picture of their life and why they are valued. Look back at #1 and let her know that you love what they’re interested in find ways to let them know that you enjoy who they are. You can tell them that time is on their side and that their talents and strengths will continue to bloom over time.
4. Practice Mindfulness Mindfulness is a conscious directions of one’s thoughts inward so that the person is aware of their thoughts and emotions without judging them. Sometimes students with strong D strengths are so focused on the future, it leads to excessive stress and worry about the future that can be paralyzing. Try doing simple mindfulness exercises with your kids. Common mindfulness exercises include activities such as focused 1-minute breathing, mindful observation (notice the beauty in your surroundings, things you hadn’t noticed before), and mindfulness listening.
5. Discover the Advantages Finally, decide to learn more about dyslexic advantages and share that knowledge with your children. Dyslexic MIND strengths stand for talents in Material Reasoning (reasoning through physical materials), Interconnected Reasoning (linking seemingly unrelated ideas or things), Narrative Reasoning (reasoning through stories), and Dynamic Reasoning (reasoning complex and changing environments, making mental simulations and predictions of the future). We’ll be writing a lot more about how to develop MIND strengths advantages in future premium posts – but here are few to get you started…Resilience2b1
M: building, designing, creating – legos, Minecraft, art, room redos
I: inventing, trip to the aquarium and zoo, ecosystems, economics videos for kids on Youtube
N: family storytelling, getting stories down through dictation, radio theatre, or video, story games like Life’s a Pitch
D: predicting what happens next in movies and books, complex game play – war and ecosystem games, game design, writing novels with many characters, social games with multiple players, just-for-fun stock market predictions.